The Desires of my Heart

I made a list of "things I want in a man" some years ago and, in my youth, it had WAY too many things on it. 

I have narrowed it down to 6 things: 

He loves me and TREATS ME WELL

A lot of guys think that this means you have to spend a bunch of money. No. Act like the guy you want you daughter/sister/mother to marry. This means you can communicate effectively, like a grown up person. 

Is attractive to me and attracted to me

I like all kinds of different guys. You can't be "in the closet" about dating fat girls/black girls/smart girls.  I want us to not be able to keep our hands off of each other. 

Is encouraging and willing to be encouraged 

Teamwork makes the Dream work. 

Would like to be married, to me

I am getting old.  It is time to date intentionally. Not that I am in a rush to get down the aisle, but I am tired of the bs. We can have fun, with out the "we're just having fun" attitude.  The only benefits I need from friends are the occasional ride to the airport. 

Can make me laugh

My job is very stressful, I don't want to be serious and stressed out at home too!

 

Has some modicum of cultural competence

Be interested and engaged in learning something new.  Don't be a jerk to people who are different. 

So, that's it.  Is that you? Do you have a list too? If "she can cook" is on there, please try harder!

Laissez les bon temps rouler!

Have been neglecting the blog... so sad. I do I have a bunch of Houston/rodeo/good stuff to post. If only I had the time!

Today is Mardi Gras. I explained to my Chinese boss what a "King Cake" was, I think he was freaked out about the whole "and then you put a plastic baby Jesus in the cake" part. As was the English girl in the lab.

Time to think about what to "give up" for Lent. This is like a New Year's resolution do-over of sorts. I think I am going to let go of alcohol, mostly for the calories. I thought about giving up refined sugar, but then thought about all the things that I eat with refined sugar in it, and decided not.

Meanwhile, think of this while you throw those beads!